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Early Family Life
I was fortunate to grow up in an affluent family on the east coast. My father, Howard J. Samuels, was a prominent New York political figure, who ran for governor of New York and was a member of U.S President Lyndon Johnson’s cabinet.
My siblings attended prestigious schools. I, however, suffered from a learning disability and a stutter that left me feeling isolated and different from the rest of my family.
Back then, learning disorders were not recognized and I did poorly in school. Because of my negative belief system, I thought I was stupid. My family was very focused on outside achievements and success, while my perceived shortcomings left me with low self-esteem. My feelings of inadequacy soon transformed into anger.
When Things Go Bad
I began using drugs and alcohol regularly by the time I was 14. By 16, I had discovered heroin and quickly spiraled into an addiction that controlled every aspect of my life. At 19, I was arrested at JFK International Airport for possession of cocaine and heroin. The arrest soon went public and became a scandal. I was given a choice to either attend rehab for a year or go to prison for four years. I chose treatment. I entered rehab for the first time in 1971 but never took it seriously – I continued to drink. As long as I wasn’t doing heroin, I believed I was okay.
Eventually my drinking led me back to cocaine, pills and heroin. It became clear that I was unable to stop using on my own. My family intervened and I was sent to a treatment center in Santa Ana called Phoenix House. Determined to do things my way, I had planned on staying only for two months out of the eighteen-month program.
Transformations – Losing My Father
While at phoenix house, my father died suddenly of a heart attack in 1984 and upon attending his funeral I experienced a psychic shift. I realized my own mortality and I was done living the life of a junkie. I was tired of hurting everyone around me as a result of my addiction. I made a commitment to my father that he would never have to worry about me again. I went back into treatment and surrendered myself to the process completely.
I lived in a room with 25 other men, all with very different backgrounds but these men were just like me. They suffered from the disease of alcoholism. I was assigned to scrub toilets and floors, attend groups and participate in a lifestyle that was completely new and different to me. I did everything they asked of me. I was finally experiencing a willingness I had never felt before. The staff had what I wanted, and that was freedom from drugs and alcohol.
Learning and Growing
After a year in Phoenix House, I went to train as a counselor and eventually got a job working at the Phoenix House’s branch in New York. During this time, I went back to NYU to pursue a film career. Along the way I realized my true calling was not in film but rather in helping other alcoholics through treatment and recovery.
In 1990, I moved to LA where I attended Antioch to get my masters. My whole life I never believed that a person like me could do well in school, but I was determined to prove “The Beast” wrong. Sobriety allowed me to work hard for what I wanted in life and take on responsibilities I never thought possible. I worked at the Promises Treatment Center in West LA as a counselor and eventually worked my way up to become the program director. Further down the road I collaborated with the owner of Promises to open a facility in Malibu where I helped coordinate and develop the clinical program. I over saw that program for several years and opened my own private practice.
Working in treatment has been rewarding for me because I know the process so well. I spent 3 years of my life as a client in treatment centers and I can connect to the clients around me as only another alcoholic could.
I next opened The Hills Treatment Center where I worked as the CEO. I was very hands on at The Hills and I ran a weekly group called “The Beast” where clients would confront their issues and learn about accountability.
Since then I have opened a private practice to work one on one with clients who are struggling with addiction, alcoholism, relationships, and family crisis. I bring may years of experience with tried and true methods as well as a first-hand experience with addiction and family crisis.
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